I am a married, Pro-Life, Republican, mother of two, and I marched. I wrote this in light of how many women are attempting to shout down women who marched. The myopia of those belittling our efforts is befuddling. I suppose this is where we have arrived – us vs. them until bruised and bloodied we all fail. To all the women who believe they have plenty of rights and they are plenty equal… how do you think you got those rights? The short sightedness and historical amnesia at play here is dangerous. It was barely 100 years ago that women were being beaten and jailed for trying to VOTE.
By Renee Contreras De Loach – I have seen a lot of anti-march posts. I am not sure if people really don’t understand or if this is just another opportunity for women to pretend they are better than other women. This “othering” is anything but charitable or enlightened though it is often couched in religious or faux empowerment language. These posts range from condescending to hostile – calling women sleazy, irresponsible, murderers, and at one point insinuating absurdly we don’t want to be “real” women.
First, women all over the world use hormones and IUDs for a number of health reasons: getting pregnant, staying pregnant, preventing cancer, treating fibroids etc. “Birth control” is only one use – it needs to be covered by insurance because it is necessary health care but many law makers disagree. I marched for critical services to remain covered.
Second, I had a miscarriage at 20 weeks years ago. It was devastating. In an attempt to shame women having abortions there are efforts to force women to have a funerals 20 weeks +. I can’t even imagine if every one of my multiple miscarriages would have required an expensive funeral. It would have been financially devastating on top of our already broken hearts. Many mothers have been forced to carry sick or crippled babies to term and deliver them even when they know the baby will die risking the mothers life and in some cases causing unnecessary prolonged physical suffering to these tiny humans. I marched for them.
Third, around the time I had my baby girl Kate, a friend learned that her baby had no skull – and would die immediately after birth – and further she would not be able to deliver this baby without a skull. They induced her and “delivered” the baby. Technically, this is what some ignorant people are referring to as late term abortions and trying to BAN. I marched for her and me.
Fourth, 1 in 3 women are victims of sexual or physical abuse. Most girls are abused as GIRLS/minors. Women around the world are being mutilated as part of tradition or religious rites. Some women in the world are killed when they are raped. Even in the U.S., women have been punished or kicked out of college for being raped. Around the world and in the U.S. child brides and polygamy still happens. So they have been victimized and they are victims and they don’t need people shaming them for acknowledging it. I marched for them too.
Fifth, in some countries women have been forced by their governments to abort their babies. In other countries, governments denied birth control and forced women to have one child after the other. For that reason I believe the government should NOT have say over women’s bodies… ever. Our supreme court agrees. So I marched for the 30 million aborted Chinese baby girls that the government decided didn’t deserve life because they were less valuable than boys. I marched for their mothers too.
If you haven’t experienced abuse, mutilation, miscarriages, oppression, wage gaps, or been denied necessary medical care because you can’t afford it… GOOD. I am happy for you and I truly mean that. But in this wide world you are the exception, not the rule and you should be grateful, not judgmental. I hope this helps people understand the wide range of issues around the world (50 countries) that women and men marched for.
(a Pro-Life, Republican, Anti-Government-Making-Women’s-Decisions, Stay-At-Home Mom)
Lead Photo Credit: Taken by Renee at the Women’s March in Eureka, Northern California. She told us, “The march was enormous and overlapped itself. Many people of many colors and beliefs. Awesome! I attended with my husband, daughter and my daughter’s friend.”