A friend was searching for holiday cards that support women-focused charities, like Planned Parenthood, but came up empty. So Sara Coates, an actor with a big social following, sprang into helping-hand action and posed the innocuous question to the Twittersphere. In return, she got trolled, with one anti-choice “independent news agency” even publishing a fake news article about her, twisting her words to fit their own agenda. This is Sara’s response…
My old manager sent me an email today. She still has a Google alert for my name (which made me feel super special) and there was an article attached entitled “Actress Sara Coates Excited to Buy Christmas Cards Supporting Planned Parenthood Abortion Biz.”
Let me tell you, at first read I went through a gamut of emotions. First, I was flattered. They used an AMAZING picture of me; I looked badass and my eyes were really telling a story. The headline popped and made me think that the article would praise my efforts in supporting women’s rights! (That’s not the case, it’s rather scathing) Then I felt annoyed that they called me an actress. I’m an actor damn it. There’s no such thing as a doctress. But that’s a personal preference and only a slight annoyance on my part. Then I felt dread. I have always hated the idea of people being mad at me. And I didn’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable or not like me because I wanted to buy Christmas/Holiday cards for a cause. Also, this tweet wasn’t well thought out. I was talking to my friend Karen and we realized that there was a lack of greeting cards where the proceeds benefit women. And honestly, I can’t even take credit for the tweet. Karen texted me and I thought, “Ohhh, Twitter will know” so I copied and pasted her text and sent the 71 characters (82 counting spaces) into the Twittersphere. The next thing I know I’m being put on blast by a bunch of strangers all because we were curious.
Where can I buy Christmas Cards that benefit women’s rights and planned parenthood?
— Sara Coates (@slcoates) November 29, 2017
The more I let these emotions wash over me, the more I realized that it’s not my job to make people feel comfortable. As women, it’s ingrained in us to tread lightly and allow others to tell us how to feel and act. I’m not EVEN going to get into all these sexual harassment stories in the news, but I will say – ME. TOO. As an actor, my job is to make you feel something and to tell a story. That’s it. I don’t get to dictate what you feel and, truthfully, how you feel about me is none of my business. One thing I do know… I’m not here to make you feel comfortable. I’m here to do whatever I want to do with MY body, MY career and MY life. To quote DETOX from RuPaul’s Drag Race “Sorry ‘bout it”.
I think my favorite part of the entire article is that it tells you exactly how to support Planned Parenthood. So, on that note let me spill some more knowledge on you.
Abortion is not the most popular service that Planned Parenthood provides. In fact, it only accounts for about 3% of their healthcare services. Oh and hey, men, while services vary depending on location, men can visit clinics for prostate, colon, and testicular cancer screenings, vasectomies, male infertility screenings (they will help your boners!), and sexual-health services, among other necessary health treatments. Boom.
Also, it’s inclusive. In an effort to expand its already wide reach, Planned Parenthood offers hormone therapy for transgender patients, a typically prohibitive or difficult-to-access medical service.
So, just in case you didn’t read the article where it says I don’t care about babies and life and all that, I do. I also care about the 2.5 million Planned Parenthood patients that count on this organization for critical lifesaving care. And I just wanted to send my friends cards that benefited women. I won’t apologize for that.
About The Author
Sara Coates is best known for her role as Serena aka “Pie Girl” on the hit SYFY series, Z Nation. She believes she might be getting typecast as a crazy pregnant woman because she also played one opposite Keira Knightley in the Sundance hit Laggies (2014). Sara can be seen in the award winning film Lane 1974, opposite Ray Donovan and The L Word star Katherine Moennig. Sara is the voice of the new big bad in the Resident Evil 7: Biohazard video game. She is an accomplished theater actor, improvisor, comedian and writer. Sara has a french bulldog sidekick named Reuben Wrinkles. Follow Sara on Instagram: @scoatesy and Twitter: @slcoates